How Rapport Can Help Your Hypnosis

How Rapport Can Help Your Hypnosis

Rapport is a very valuable tool in the art of hypnosis. When learning hypnosis you need to really focus on this skill to create the best rapport possible with your subjects. This will help you on your way to becoming a great hypnotist.

A fundamental understanding of what makes up a good rapport between two people will help you to create the type of deepened relationships you require as a hypnotist. Rapport will build trust and comfort between you and your clients.

Rapport is the close relationship that you will develop with your subjects. It is a harmonious relationship including 2 or more people that understand one another's feelings and ideas. Rapport also includes the important skill to be able to communicate those feelings and ideas thoroughly.

A fact about rapport is everyone knows how to develop rapport in a traditional sense. As long as you live outside of a cave, you do it daily.

You have a rapport with your co-workers, clients, friends and family. Those rapports may differ; in fact they should be different as the relationships with each are different. These rapports are the basis for the comfort you feel in interacting with these people on a regular basis.

Traditionally you build rapport with others by finding common interests, being nice, complimenting another as well as the similar experiences you share. These are all good ways to develop rapport on a normal basis.

Knowing how rapport works will help you in nearly every rapport building situation. Many do not understand how rapport works and use traditional rapport building means during inappropriate times. This can cause the relationship to backfire and sometimes fail completely.

When you are looking for rapport in any situation it is paramount that you remember that other people enjoy being around people like themselves.

The idea of experiencing a similar situation as another really works here. As this creates a connection on a deeper level, experiences are important to people. They are what make up our lives, a series of experiences linked together.

This creates a safe environment for most individuals to open up within.

To be able to create a safe and comfortable feeling for your subject is fundamental. After you have successfully started the rapport in this way the quicker you will be able to dig deeper into the relationship. This technique will make the relationship stronger and more trusting.

However, developing a rapport in hypnosis is anything but traditional. Here you are looking to achieve a deeper relationship much quicker than developing a normal rapport with an acquaintance.

Refining the development of traditional rapport can make this a valuable and powerful skill for your practice in hypnosis. Fractionating, wide rapport, story telling and ‘matching and mirroring are ways to build rapport with in conversational hypnosis.

Fractionate rapport helps your subject work to keep the rapport going. In this skill you give your attention full to the subject. Then take it away, get distracted.

If the person try's to re-engage you, you have successfully founded the beginnings of a rapport. Then you start the process over again. Each time you give your complete focus the person will develop a deeper trust and comfort with you.

Another way to strengthen rapport is through wide rapport. Wide rapport is when you offer a subject many different experiences of you in different environments. This can be done literally by going to different locations to see one another. It can also be accomplished through story telling.

Story telling is a great way to build rapport with someone. Through the telling of stories you can create many different realities in which your subject becomes comfortable interacting with you. This builds trust and allows them to open up their mind to you more quickly. You can use story telling to develop a wide rapport with each person you meet.

Another way to improve rapport is to know how to use Matching and Mirroring. This is a technique that when done correctly, will help your subject feel more comfortable very quickly.

Matching and Mirroring is when you mimic the actions, body language, hand gestures and signals to create an unconscious connection with another person. This needs to happen on an unconscious level for it to work.

Once a person realizes on a conscious level that you are mirroring them it can cause them to feel annoyed and uncomfortable around you. They may even feel that you are making fun of them. This is not a good way to build rapport and can be damaging.

On the other hand if you are successful in matching and mirroring, and your subject is unaware on a conscious level that you are mimicking them it can build a very strong connection with the person quite quickly.

Remember this technique works only when it is unconsciously perceived, outside normal awareness.

Matching and mirroring studies have shown that when the participants included in the study did not recognize the imitation a strong rapport was created. Those who discovered they were being mimicked were less persuaded by the entire presentation, and the rapport was damaged.

The key here is to learn to match and mirror unconsciously. If you do this you will be more likely to go undiscovered by the other person you are interacting with.

Matching and mirroring is a powerful technique for building rapport and therefore a powerful technique in improving your hypnosis. However, it does have limitations and you should have other means for developing rapport as well.

Hypnosis is a very different form of communication. It requires different techniques to develop a substantial rapport that the relationship can firmly stand on. Building the rapport with your subject through fractionating, wide rapport, story telling and matching and mirroring is fundamental.




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The Power of Frame Control in Hypnosis

The Power of Frame Control in Hypnosis

Hypnosis, and especially Conversational Hypnosis, is all about the language you use and the ways in which you structure that language. You will be using the skills and valuable tools you learn in these articles to alter people's states of consciousness and change their lives for the better. One of the aspects you will have to have control over beside language is the frames that people have put themselves in mentally.

A frame is simply the way you reference things in your life to the outside world. It is how you understand things in the scheme of things, so to speak. All frames are interpreted by the context in which they lie. If you see a man mowing his very small yard with a riding lawn mower you may initially think, "Give me a break you are so lazy." But if you change the context and you know the man has polio and cannot use his legs properly most people will have a different out look. This is because the context of your frame has changed. There is new information that makes you allow yourself to forgive the ‘laziness' here.

There are frames that run through your life every day. The beliefs you have, the way you interpret wild crazy kids running amuck, politics, elderly drivers, women putting on make up while driving, men on cell phones while driving, morals and all these things are set in a context which is set within your mind. Now that doesn't mean that context can't change, it just means that you have a preset frame to judge things by.

If you can take control of the power behind a frame you are essentially taking control of a particular meaning behind an interaction. If you can change the frame you will give a new meaning, probably completely different to the previous meaning the person originally had.

With changing frames in a natural environment the more the information coming in changes the more likely you are to change your frame. If a car speeds by you and cuts you off, initially most people will be angry or infuriated at the gull and complete disregard of the other people on the road.

However if you have the inside information that inside that car is a dying child that needs to get to the hospital your frame would likely change. You would be more willing to forgive the incident and move aside to let the car pass at whatever speed was necessary.

If we change the frame again and say the car sped past with a dying child in the back, but the driver stole the car and is not racing to the hospital but to the border of Mexico, your frame would likely change again. So changing frames has a lot to do with the information that is provided and just as likely the information that has not come to be discovered yet.

Frames in general are an assumed set of assumptions that people use to measure the world they live in by. Without frames there would be no deep seeded beliefs, in fact people would be pretty boring as they would really not have an opinion on much of anything.

Now when you have a frame there will usually be two polar opposites of it. For example, organized religion is bad, and organized religion is good, or police officers are your friends and keep you safe; help you, and police officers are bullies and only want to catch you doing something wrong. These are both sets of mind or frames that people have, are either of them completely true?

The fact of the matter is that usually the truth lies somewhere in the middle. Some police officers are good and do their jobs well; they do help you and protect you. Other police officers are more out to catch you doing something bad or have been corrupted in some way.

Logically from an outside point of view you know that both of these statements are true but other people, including maybe you, have a different context to put police officers in. Maybe they were wrongly arrested and charged for a crime they did not commit, therefore their outlook on police officers is a bit jaded.

Truth in frames is irrelevant simply because they are based on perceptions of what others see and in what context they base their frames. There will always be a way to spin your frame one way or the other depending on the contexts you use. The way to use this is to take control of frames so you have the power to lead the interactions you encounter.

This brings you to the new term of frame wars, this is when two different frames meet and battle it out until one frame gives way to the other frame. When this happens with people one person's ideas will eventually be overcome with the other person's opinions and ideas and the winner will dominate the interaction. This is simply a territorial interaction to see how the two will view the world, which will win, is the Earth flat or round?

So it will come in handy for you to know how to change frames in the people you meet and work with. After all if you can win the frame war you will be in charge of leading the interaction and making it a positive one for all concerned, hypnosis. Your main purpose in frames as a hypnotist is to be able to recognize them, recognize when someone is testing your frames and establish your frame as the dominate frame so you can lead the interaction.

Now we will get to all that in a moment in the next article, but first you have one more concept here to learn. That is how to know when someone is testing your frames. People will do this consciously or unconsciously it is simply the way human's work, what does he/she think and do you agree or disagree with it. We are all curious, and since we are a not cat that is a good thing.

When you meet new people there will almost always be frame testing going on, it is how you get to know a person, figuring out how you will measure them up in your world. This testing is used to find out if you think they are being false or genuine, and once the interaction is battled out the tensions will ease as one of you will have won the frame war.

After this happens things tend to flow better between you, this is because you now know your place with this person, you and the other person have both stuck your preverbal flags in the ground and know the others views. At this point things will stay pretty calm, that is until new information is introduced.

This is classic and happens everyday, you think you have a person all figured out and then they do something you don't expect or agree with. This is a new set of information or experience being added to the original set of frames which brings everything into question.

We will look at ways to win the frame wars in coming articles, this will be important as it will give you the ability to lead interactions to whatever conclusions you wish.

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The ABSAIL Formula for Influences in Hypnosis

The ABSAIL Formula for Influences in Hypnosis

So you are very aware by now that the purpose in being a hypnotist, at least in Conversational Hypnosis, is to create changes in behaviors. These changes should lead people to lead happier, healthier and more fulfilling lives. One of the key formulas in learning hypnosis that will help you reach these goals is the ABSAIL formula.

The ABSAIL formula is a simple set of words that will help guide you in creating behavioral changes for the people you are working with. Each letter in ABSAIL signifies a step in the somewhat challenging process of persuasion. The first two steps you will be familiar with as they are taken straight from the 4 Stage Protocol in learning hypnosis.

The A stands for Absorbed Attention. Like we said this from the 4 Stage Protocol, and is the first stage in this formula as well. This is simply the concept of focusing your subject's attention.

This needs to be done to the point of all their thoughts being focused on you and the states you are inducing. All their thoughts, ideas and emotions should be following along the parameters you are setting with in the conversation you are having with them. Draw them into you and fill their senses with what you are saying. Make sure that you ‘go first' so as to provide information they can adequately follow along as you are sub-communicating the experiences you want them to focus on.

The B in ABSAIL stands for the second stage in the 4 Stage Protocol, and that is to bypass the critical factor. Now this is imperative, because before they can begin to respond to you unconsciously their critical factor must be asleep.

Critical factor is the mechanism inside our heads that makes conflict with information. It criticizes and analyzes all the information that consciously flows through our minds. Critical factor must be bypassed in order for you to be able to access a hypnotic trance. If this is not done then you will not be able to successfully place suggestions within the minds of the people around you.

S in this formula is where we start to veer away from the 4 Stage Protocol. S stands for State change. This is an important part of your objective because you need to access different states within the mind in order to sow the seeds of suggestion in the right places. If you have no way to help your clients change their state of mind then you will not be able to advance in the session.

State change will happen when you change the mood of a person. You change moods not minds, remember. So as you change the moods of your listener you will have more freedom in establishing the state you would like them to enter.

A and I in ABSAIL are paired to stand for augmentation and intensify. In the idea of augmentation you are simply trying to expand the state of mind. Make it encompass more of the emotion and experience your subject is having.

Intensity can also be augmented and made greater. However the actual definition of intensify is to increase the amount of feeling behind the story, feeling or emotion; that is why these two go together so nicely.

After you have augmented the state you want to intensify it as well. You also want to intensify the responses you are getting from your subject. By intensifying these things you are making the experience more real for them. You are creating a vivid picture that they can lose themselves in. The greater the intensity of the state the better and quicker you can set an emotional trigger, making this an important step in this formula and in hypnosis.

That leaves us with the L. The L in ABSAIL is to Link to Action. There is a choice in this step you can either set a trigger or go directly to the linking to action. This happens after you have ignited the neurology within the brain and it is aglow with the action of the experience you are creating for your subject. You simply take the emotion that they are filled with and link it to the action you want them to take.

Now that you have all the components of the ABSAIL Formula it would be nice if you could picture it in action. The best, and most common, example of ABSAIL we see everyday in the form of advertisements. Advertisements take you through every step of ABSAIL in approximately 30 seconds to a minute.

Ads are a prime example of this in that they begin by absorbing our attention and then move into bypassing the critical factor simply because they are usually uninteresting at the start. After that they change state and add intensity by teasing you with the things you most desire.

Usually there are fast cars, beautiful women and glamorous lifestyles in advertisements. They heighten the intensity by showing you what you want to see, what many would like to have. Then they simply link their product to the action that is taking place with in the ad.

It is important to learn the ABSAIL Formula as it will be a foundation for you to check yourself against when you are using conversational hypnosis. These steps are easy to remember and designed to offer you success in the field of hypnosis.

As you build on each one of these skills you will learn to set the conditions up in just the right ways to access states properly. Usually this is done with ASP in mind. As well as combining them with the other techniques you have been learning throughout.

These are all skill that can be used together to create a powerful and impacting change to better a persons life. These techniques will assist in a successful point of action where your subject takes the reigns and learns to have a more fulfilling life because of their work with you

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How to Develop Unconscious Rapport in Hypnosis

How to Develop Unconscious Rapport in Hypnosis

Conversational Hypnosis is as it sounds, it is generally made up of different conversations, different ways of communicating. In communication whether it is verbal, non-verbal, physical or sub-communications you are constantly building some type of rapport. Rapport is a very important and valuable part of Conversational Hypnosis.

Building the type of rapport you need in your hypnosis is a job that requires hard work. Now rapport itself, on a non hypnotic level, is easy to build. You do it every day with family, friends, co-workers and even complete strangers.

This is a natural function that you learned in the earliest years of your life. The fact is that rapport building is an intuitive process that you can learn how to do consciously, you can learn to repeat the rapport building processes you use everyday.

The easiest way to build rapport with others is to always remember to go first. Going first is a concept you have learned and will use often in Conversational Hypnosis. Going first means that you must first enter or engage yourself in the state you want to project onto others around you. When you do this you will sub-communicate signals to those around you about the state you are in and it will influence them to join you in that state.

When you have a strong rapport with another person, let's say a family member or your best friend, you probably feel certain things when you are in their general presence. Most people will feel different things like a fluttering in the stomach or the sensation of being able to breathe easier. This feeling is different for everyone but it is a feeling that is usually associated with comfort, trust and a feeling of being at ease in their presence.

You may even be experiencing it now as you think of that person, and as you think of that feeling and person you will likely start to experience the state that goes along with the particular rapport you share with that person. Many times it is helpful in learning to build rapport to associate a certain color with the feeling you link to that rapport.

When you are learning to recall a state purposefully in order to build rapport it is very important that you take that state and the feelings you associate with it and intensify it to the point of oozing. You want to expand that rapport, that feeling, that color with in you and let it fill you completely and intensely.

You really want the feeling of that rapport to seep from you and surround you. From there you want it to fill the room and envelope the other person you are trying to build a similar rapport with. The more you work on intensifying the rapport within you the more it will expand outward to the person you are interacting with.

As you are expanding, projecting and sub-communicating that rapport you want to engage the other person in it will trigger your unconscious to send out signals of that rapport. In doing this a type of natural mirroring will occur in your behaviors with the other person. You will begin to communicate that rapport on many, many different levels unconsciously.

This is where things start to become a little hard for the conscious mind to track. You will want to use all the rapport building skills and concepts you have already learned, but only to the point that it is comfortable. Once things start to become too much you will then let your unconscious mind take over and compensate for the rest of the rapport building.

The more that you can get your unconscious mind to do in this area the better. The unconscious mind is already well versed in this area as you have been doing it all your life, so let one thing be simple and let the unconscious do something that it knows how to do already.

You already know that the idea behind going first in rapport is a tried and true one; it has been tested over and over again with the same positive results. But that is not to say it is the best way to do it, rapport building can be started with going first and then can be handed off to the unconscious mind for great results as well.

Rapport is much like an intimate relationship; it is a way that you are with another person. It is very familiar and allows you entrance into their world. You have the opportunity to explore their world without hindering or damaging your own reality. You can be a tourist and see things the ways they see them, but with caution to not be judging or harsh in any way. Rapport, deep rapport offers you so many ways to really experience life through another's view point and expand your rapport while doing so.

The best way to do this is to let it happen unconsciously. The unconscious mind already embodies and posses all the tools, skills and concepts it needs in order to build strong, wide and deep rapports with those around you, so let it happen if you can.

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Power Tactics in Hypnosis: How to Use Status to Influence the Hypnotic Subject

Power Tactics in Hypnosis: How to Use Status to Influence the Hypnotic Subject

Power tactics that are used in hypnosis have been used for many, many years; they are strategies that are key in the influence and persuasion of those around you. These tactics will help you to change the lives of those around you for the better, as well as your own.

As you learn how to use power tactics you will want to keep in mind the different concepts of hypnotic language foundations, rapport skills and signal recognition skills. Keep these in the back of your mind because as you learn power tactics you will want to start to combine them all to create a powerful way of being a hypnotist.

It is important to realize that at some point you will want to converge all the information you are learning in to smooth flowing patterns that will enhance your overall ability to be a great hypnotist.

Power tactics, which are very old and very useful, in hypnosis are the strategies that allow you to become the authority in a person's trance. They enable you to take on the role of high status, which is our first tactic.

The power tactic of ‘High Status' is a role you will take on with your subject in order to get them to follow your suggestions. It is important to note here that high status has nothing to do with your person; it is not about wealth or moral judgment. It is simply a place in the set of roles you take on in society everyday.

High status, equal status and low status are all different roles we play within the relationships we have. Some people are natural high status people; they are comfortable and are good at taking control of the conversation. Others are low status people and are more of a passenger in conversations, they chime in when necessary but other than that mostly agree with what is being said by others.

The different roles we choose varies depending on the people we are with and the situations we are in. It is important for you as a hypnotist to understand these roles and know when you need to play that of high or low status. The best part of choosing a role to play after you understand them is that it gives you the most flexibility in conversations you have and the people you are working with.

Now of course as a hypnotist you will want to be in a role of high status, this will make you the authority figure. As the authority figure people will want to do what you suggest and follow your advice.

The problem with this is that some people are not flexible in the types of people they feel comfortable dealing with. There are people who are comfortable being low status and others who are only comfortable in high status.

You will need to determine what type of person you are dealing with to determine which role you will need to initially take on. I say initially because you will want to eventually be of high status in your hypnotic relationships.

However there will be time you need to start as a low status person. If you are dealing with a person who distrusts or dislikes those of high status you will take on a low status role until the person trusts and likes you. They need to feel comfortable with you.

When you take on the role of low status you will be less assertive, feed them information subconsciously and set up the correct frames to gain their trust.

When you take on the role of a high status you will need to include two distinct concepts in your authority role. These are your body language and behavior, which include your tonality. These are the two things that will signal others as to what status you are in, they will cause a difference in how you are perceived by the other people around you.

When you give off signals of a high status people will respond to you more powerfully. This is a good sign but it is also important to remember the situations where you need to play low status and change your signals to accommodate that need. This is something you will have to do for as long as it takes until those around you are comfortable dealing with a high status person.

It is also possible to need to change status when dealing with the same person depending on the situation you are in. This is a powerful tactic in order to break down resistance.

Now how do you become a high status person? What mannerisms does a high status person give off? You have encountered them countless times, and more than likely interact with high status people all the time.

People who are in high status role are those who send out signals of relaxed manner. They are very comfortable with themselves and are confident in the things they do and say. Some distinguishing characteristics of high status people are easy to spot.

High status individuals exhibit Calm Movements. These people are calm and unhurried; they do not rush through their actions, words or thoughts. And those around them respond to these people as if they are in control of the situations they are in.

If you goal is to be a high status role in your hypnotic relationships then you need to take on these behaviors. It is important to avoid being jumpy, jerky or nervous. Many low status people will have repetitive movements or ticks, they will wring their hands or bounce a leg constantly, and these are behaviors to avoid.

Another high status signal is the way you use the space around you. High status people use their space widely. Low status individuals take up as little space as possible by crossing their arms and legs and often sitting in corners.

High status people will use large motions, stand in a room, sit in a room, and even lean back in chairs. High status people are also not intimidated by occasionally invading others private space. They will give you a pat on the back or unsuspected hug, they simply feel comfortable naturally.

The third signal of a high status person is that they will expose the vulnerable parts of their body. As humans we have vulnerable part we are constantly subconsciously aware of; these being the throat, abdomen and groin. When we feel threatened we will unknowingly protect these areas. We may cross our arms or legs, even if the attack is only a verbal one we will attempt to protect ourselves.

Those in high status will leave these areas of the body open or exposed. They feel confident enough in their defenses to not be worried. Often they are so comfortable in their environments that they simply feel no danger of an attack.

The fourth and final signal of a high status person is steady eye contact. One of the most interesting things about human beings is that you can often tell exactly what emotion they are having by looking at their eyes. The eyes are directly connected to the brain and therefore give away many clues to your thinking.

Low status individuals will have nervous eyes, darting around, unable to focus on one thing for too long. High status people will be able to fix their eyes on something; a person, place, thing or point in space without a problem. They will have an unwavering steady gaze that is the signature of their calm state of mind.

In order to take on a high status role you must study and embody these traits. In doing this people who are not intimidated by others of high status will feel more comfortable around you. You will find they are even more willing to open themselves up to you in many different situations.




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Milton Erickson's Hypnosis Secret: The Trance Voice Induction

Milton Erickson's Hypnosis Secret: The Trance Voice Induction

There are many types of inductions in the area of Conversational Hypnosis. As you learn each of them you see that they are appropriate for different people at different stages of their lives. Another of the many inductions we are learning about is the trance-voice induction.

While the discovery of this type of induction was attributed to John Grinder and Richard Bandler, it was actually Milton Erickson who was the true discoverer of the trance-voice induction. It was only when Grinder and Bandler, creators of NLP, studied and modeled Dr. Milton Erickson's hypnosis that they "discovered" the trance-voice induction.

Erickson's discovery in this type of induction will be very helpful to you in your practices. The trance-voice induction is powerful, interesting and shrouded by myth. You know the myth that a certain tone of voice, usually monotone, would instantly cause people to fall into deep trances. Another myth that surrounds the trance-voice is that there were some sort of magical powers involved that would cause a tone of voice to instantly send those around you into trance.

Well the truth about the trance-voice induction is that it will in a way fulfill the above myths but not to the degree in which they are usually regarded. In a trance-voice induction the listener is conditioned over a period of time to respond hypnotically to your specific trance voice.

This is specific to you and the person you have conditioned to go into trance when you use a certain tone of voice, not something anyone can do to everyone with a certain pitch of voice. The trance-voice induction and its conditioning are similar to Pavlov and his dogs. He conditioned the dogs to have the expectation of food when a bell was rung. After a while whenever the dogs heard the bell they would begin to salivate whether food was presented or not.

There certainly is not magical happenings in this induction, there is actually work to be done. You have to condition you subjects to respond hypnotically to your trance voice. In order to do this you are still required to create the experiences in order to condition each new subject.

There can be a big problem with this idea if you use your normal speaking voice for your trance voice. You will be conditioning people to respond to you every time they hear you speak; this is not a good idea. In order to avoid sending everyone you know into trance all the time you will want to develop a trance voice that is varied from your normal conversational speaking voice.

This all ties into knowing when you should and should not be using hypnosis on a person. There are appropriate times; in an office or park when there is no task other than hypnotism at hand. There are times when it is inappropriate; in a car with someone who is driving. These inappropriate times would be hard to control if you did not have at least two different voices; one for hypnosis and one for casual conversation.

Even Milton Erickson, the discoverer of trance-voice induction used many different voices for appropriate environments.

In order to set up your separate induction voice you need to learn to add different qualities to your speaking. We have covered in past articles how to change the tone, rhythm and pitch so it is easily recognized by the unconscious to connect that voice with trance characteristics. You should also add pauses and make your voice soothing and comfortable; these will be things that are identified with your trance voice.

In the trance-voice induction you will need to keep in mind all the other aspects of inductions you have learned previously. You will need to use all the skills you have learned; language skills, hypnotic gaze, piggy back inductions, yes sets and of course other indirect skill such as the ‘my friend John/Jane' concept.

When you start to use this induction you will be incorporating two very different aspects into one, you will be speaking to both the conscious and unconscious at the same time with two different voices.

The two voices will of course be varied so they can be picked up on by the conscious and unconscious. How varied you would like to make them is up to you. The more difference between your voices the more obvious and direct you will become, the slighter the difference the less obvious.

As time goes on you will develop many different trance voices, each one will accomplish different purposes. Each purpose will depend on the subjects you are developing voices for but it is safe to say you will probably at some point have different voices for story telling, learning, relaxation and excitement. They will all vary slightly to call to action either the conscious or unconscious.

The different voices you create will be used to recall within your subject time when they experienced the thing you want them to do; the learning voice will talk about times they have learned. As you do this you are attaching the experiences, their experiences to the act of learning.

This activates the neurology in their brains that makes it easier for them to learn. When that neurology is activated the setting is created for that activity to happen more efficiently and quickly; in our example learning. As your listener activates all the learning experiences they have had inside their mind they will become more able to learn.

As Milton Erickson discovered through his excellent hypnosis the secret of the trance-voice induction is to essentially return the neurology in the brain to a certain experience through the conditioning to voice. Once they start to respond to you in that way you will see they are in trance.

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How to Start Using Nested Loops to Boost the Power of Your Hypnotic Stories

How to Start Using Nested Loops to Boost the Power of Your Hypnotic Stories

It is vital to recognize that there is great power and importance in stories in Conversational Hypnosis. It is essential that you have the ability to tell good stories that not only capture and absorb the attention of your listeners but also how to make those stories persuasive, metaphorical, and hypnotic as well as how to use your stories to prime the unconscious mind.

These are all very important skills to posses when it comes to refining and perfecting your stories and they ways in which you tell them. You have also learned that there is a very powerful set of concepts involved in using nested loops to accentuate the power behind your stories. In these skills you will require more of the unconscious mind to be interested in what it is you are saying simply by the design of the loops in your stories.

Nested loops make your stories more powerful, less noticeable to the conscious mind and require the unconscious mind to work harder at its task. You are also aware that nested loops are a way of merging three or more stories together in order to create a bigger impact on the whole of the unconscious mind.

In creating nested loops with in your stories you will be leaving your listener with an ‘open mind'. By leaving questions about the unfinished stories you are creating the Zeigarnik effect, which is basically the effect of the mind on closing off because the story was finished. The listener is left with a sense of wanting to know what will happen next.

You now have these things called nested loops running through your mind and how they work with your listener. It is only fitting that you should learn step by step how to use a nested loop with in your stories. You will start this process by learning how to use a basic nested loop.

This is the easiest of four different levels of nested loop and you will want to learn it completely and fully before moving on to the more difficult nested loops.

The basic nested loop consists of three or more stories. You will probably want to start out with three to five and then go up from there after you have gotten the system down. The most that you will probably have in this set of nested loops will be twelve stories, any more than that will be in excess for most circumstances.

To create a basic nested loop with three stories you will start out with your first story. You will tell it as you usually would until you are at the climax of the story. This is usually 80% through the story. Once you reach this point you will create a soft or hard loop and start your second story.

A soft or hard loop is simply two different types of transition to go from one story to another. A soft loop incorporates the beginning of the next story within it at the point of transition. The soft loop creates a very smooth and somewhat flowing transition between the two stories.

A hard loop is a clean cut to a new story, there really is no transition except for the fact that you have switched stories. This is a way to cut to a new story with no explanation, it sounds harsh and can seem so when you use it but it will assist you in creating a greater amount of amnesia through out your nested loops. You will learn about amnesia soon, put that thought on hold for a moment.

So you tell your first story until you reach the climax, about 80% of the way through, then you use your soft or hard loop to transition to the second story which you do the same thing with. You tell your second story just as the first stopping right as you reach climax and again use a soft or hard loop to cut to the third story.

Repeat these processes with the third story in that you will tell it until you reach the climatic point and then you have a space, what you will call the suggestion phase. This is where you will have the opportunity to make a very direct suggestion to your listener.

You can do this because they will already be in an altered state of mind through listening to your three story beginnings. Since they are in trance you leave a direct suggestion such as ‘You can make much better decisions now'. Very direct and to the point, almost simple.

Then you close each of your stories that you had begun to tell before the suggestion. When you start to close your stories, it is a simple process of just finishing each story. The only catch to pay close attention to is that you do it in the reverse order of where you started. You will first close story three, then two, then one. After you close each story in reverse order you can continue speaking about the overall theme you started with.

The reason for closing your stories in the reverse order of starting has to do with that amnesia thing we put on hold awhile ago. By closing in reverse you are creating a sort of amnesia.

You are in essence creating a sound bridge with story one that will start and end all your stories this creates amnesia about the middle and makes things seem more complete. You began with story one and you will end with story one creating a bridge over stories two and three as well as the suggestion you neatly nested in the middle of it all.

Now you may want to know why we want to tell two stories in the middle then end in a way that will make the listener sort of forget they were even told. The idea is that they are not only forgetting the two stories in the middle but they are also creating amnesia about the suggestion you placed.

This is good because then there is no time to stop and analyze it or resist it. The stories and suggestion are still floating around in the unconscious and producing responses the amnesia effect is only masking it so there is no rejection of the suggestion.

This is a lot of information to take in, and although it may sound complicated once it is practiced and put to use you will see that it is not that difficult. The only thing to really remember that we haven't emphasized yet is to always remember to close your stories in reverse order.

If you close them in the same order you started, meaning one, two and three you will defeat the structure of the nested loop and the amnesia and bridge will fail, causing the whole structure to fail. So just practice the correct habits in this simple or basic nested loop and then you can move on once you are comfortable.

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The 3 Most Common Mistakes Hypnotists Make in Building Rapport

The 3 Most Common Mistakes Hypnotists Make in Building Rapport


Building rapport as a hypnotist is very important. As you improve your rapport skills you will be improving your overall skill as a hypnotist. In saying that it is important to be aware of the common mistakes made in building rapport.
The ability to have great rapport with your subjects is one of the first tools you will encounter needing as a hypnotist. Common mistakes made in this area are hard to identify as ‘mistakes' unless you are aware of what they are.
The first most common mistake made is simply trying to be too nice. Of course you should be nice to people. But there is a point in time in certain relationships when the line must be drawn.
In order to develop a deep rapport with people you need to have full communication. This means that everything that needs to be said must be said, even if it is unpleasant. Not having full communication can disable you from sharing important thoughts, ideas and feelings.
The basic rule to follow here is to be nice but not at the expense of real communication. Say what needs to be said. If you do not the rapport will break down and a barrier will start to go up.
Most people have experienced one end or the other of trying to be too nice. One example is we are often too busy with politeness to show our true selves.
The other end of the spectrum is we encounter people who are trying too hard to be nice to us. Either way you look at it, a wall is constructed and these people remain casual acquaintances. We often have the same exact conversations with these people and never truly build a lasting rapport with them because there is no real communication happening.
The second mistake that is often made when attempting to build rapport is trying too hard. Yes this is closely related to the first mistake. When we try too hard we send signals of desperation. It shows that we are too eager to please or desperate for company.
No one likes to be surrounded with desperate people. The air of desperation often causes those around it to feel obligated or under a lot of pressure. Both of these feelings can completely shut down communication.
Trying too hard is a mistake that can lead to the "Law of Reversed Effect". The "Law of Reversed Effect" means the harder you try, the more likely you will fail. This is because you are actually interfering with the unconscious process.
When you try too hard you are not falling into a gentle rhythm where rapport is produced you are trying to force a relationship that is not ready yet. Maintaining a sense of what needs to happen to create rapport is essential to your success.
Once you recognize what needs to happen you should let your unconscious take over and implement the steps itself. ‘Instant rapport technique' will help with this later in another article.
The third mistake that is common in hypnosis is to want something from someone too much. This mistake is again closely related to the first two mistakes.
When we want something too much we often become pushy and overwhelming, especially so to the subconscious. Once an individual has pushed too much their counterpart will back off or become disinterested. Salesmen encounter this often.
There is a solution for this. ‘Fractionating rapport' will help you to pace yourself in the amount of intimacy you seek. In fractionation you work on building a little rapport and then leave it alone for a while. Let the subject come and re-engage you. Each time you repeat the process you will be digging deeper and deeper into a comfort zone and building a strong rapport with the person.
This technique keep people in their comfort zones, and you are only stretching that zone a little each time you go through the motions. Soon conversation, give and take, push and pull will become a natural and familiar habit.
Being too nice to people, trying too hard and wanting something too much, all have simple solutions to help you become successful.
If you are being too nice to your subjects, stop and remember there is a point at which you must stop being nice to save the rapport.
If you are trying too hard with your subjects implement the ‘instant rapport technique'. This will allow the unconscious to send the normal rapport signals to you through your subject.
And if you want something too much, stop doing it and use fractionation. Soon over a small amount of time you will have built many steps to great rapport.
Being aware of these three common mistakes in building rapport will help you to not only avoid them but to improve you hypnosis skills further.

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How to Use Agreement Tactics in Hypnosis

How to Use Agreement Tactics in Hypnosis

Agreement tactics are a great tool in conversational hypnosis. Not only are they a way for you to keep the conversation going they get your subject into the habit of agreeing with what you are saying.

Without agreement the person you are making suggestions to will not bring them in as true ideas that they can use to change their lives. There must be something in the words you suggest that they find agreement with on some level in order to put them into action.

Agreement tactics will help you to really get into your subjects head. One of the first things an agreement tactic will assist you with is to distinguish the alertness of a person's critical factor.

If the critical factor is in full swing they will still be able to criticize and analyze the information you are giving to them. Not only does the critical factor turn on the analysis of ideas it also starts to conform them to the ways in which that person views the world. They will see your suggestions only as they feel the world should work and not for the simplicity they need to make changes.

If they are doing this it may be difficult for them to find agreement in your suggestions and there fore they will not take. The bottom line on critical factor is that if it is awake and functioning it will prevent change in your subject, which is the opposite of your goals as a hypnotist.

The answer to this is to have the ability to bypass the critical factor with your words, put that part of the mind to sleep. Once you have accomplished this you will be able to present information to the person and make everything seem acceptable on the basis of it can be. Everything needs to be taken in as plausible and possible so your suggestions will stick.

Agreement is the art of putting the critical factor to sleep. This will make it easier to bring in new ideas and create new realities where change can occur. There are four agreement tactics that will help you to lull the critical factor to sleep and we will do a short introduction of them here, these will be discussed more in depth in another article.

The first agreement tactic we will discuss is Plausibility. Once people are in the habit of agreeing with you it is much easier to get them to agree to ideas that they may not have completely agreed with if you were to just start with and state that idea.

This has happened to most people when trying to convince someone to see something our way. Take a moment to remember conversations you have had in the past, maybe you were in deep conversation with a friend on a point you view differently or debating a topic with a work colleague.

When you do this you would first lay out the ideas of the topic that you know they agree with, and then you would slowly work into the parts that they may or may not agree with and finally hit them with the big point that you are debating.

Now you may or may not have been successful in getting the agreement from them. If you were not this segment will help you with that ability.

In plausibility the easiest way to get a person to agree with you is if they are already in the flow of agreeing with the things you are saying. Once you have made several statements they can agree with your next statement can be one that they would find as true as your first statements. If it is a plausible idea they will tend to agree or just go along with it because you have turned off a part of their critical factor.

It is important to know that plausibility is based on a sliding scale; the more of an altered state of mind the person is in the less plausible your statements must be. The less entranced they are the more plausible your statements must be. It works to your advantage if you can get and hold a good altered state of mind.

If your subject is in a full state of trance then the plausibility of your statements can be zero and they will still be in a full state of agreement with your suggestions.

The second agreement tactic is the Agreement Habit. This tactic is largely based on the ‘go first' concept. In going first you will start to create realities for your subjects to enter into and share with you.

This is vital as it is hard to get a person to believe a set of circumstances if you yourself do not believe them. You can act as if you believe them however your sub-communications will show people that you are not truly in agreement with your own ideas, or those you are trying to convey.

In this you need to take the lead and believe your thoughts and ideas first so as to pave the way for the people you are lending the suggestions and ideas to. Once you are in agreement with the suggestions or stories then your external behaviors will show this agreement.

The third agreement tactic is the ‘Yes Set'. This is a technique that is used simply to get your subjects in the habit of saying yes. Start with true simple statements that are verifiable facts, yet fit into the frame work of your conversation. This is important; after all you are using conversational hypnosis.

These ‘yes sets' are created by stating the obvious, repeating what they have said and stating truisms. Truisms are ideas that are generally found true and created by the culture you live in.

The fourth and final agreement tactic is the ‘Piggy Back Principal'. Piggy backing is simply attaching a statement to an idea that is already going on or in. If your subject accepts an entire statement because the first part is true then they will on some level accept the rest of the statement that has made it in.

The trick in this tactic is to create contexts that your subject will want to accept. This is done by practicing the concepts we have been reviewing. You can create acceptable contexts by using compliments, yes sets, agreement habits and following the subject's line of thinking.

At the end of each of these simply attach a suggestion. You are attaching a suggestion to something that is going to take place regardless. "The sun is out today and it will be a great day to start your diet." The first part of the statement is a verifiable fact and the second part is going in simply because the first is true and correct.






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How to do Preframing in Hypnosis

How to do Preframing in Hypnosis

Conversational Hypnosis is a prime area for you to learn and perfect your skills of framing. There are certain frames you all have that rule the ways in which you live your life, believe what you believe and think the thoughts you think. Frames are apparent in everyone's everyday lives.

Part of your time as a human is spent defending and convincing others to see things the same ways in which you see them. This is natural it is a way in which people state their opinions and contradict or view others opinions. The interesting thing about frames is that they can change depending on the amount of information a person has or new information that is introduced to them.

Part of your goals as a conversational hypnotist will be to use frames, change them and take control of them in order to direct interactions with other people. This is done through four simple tactics, the first we have discussed previously which is to maintain your frame. Here we will discuss the second tactic which is how to preframe in order to change frames. The other two tactics you will learn more in depth later are deframing and reframing.

First preframing is a way to avoid the confrontation on the war front. It is used to tell others in advance what to think or pay attention to about a frame before you actually get to the disagreement of a particular frame.

This is used along with maintaining your frame quite often and you will want to be sure to learn how to combine the two as you move forward in these actions when attempting to change the frames of those around you.

Preframing is a tactic that takes a bit of planning in that you will want to set up the conditions for the way you want a person to view the frame before you get to the actual frame. This is accomplished easily once you know how to do it. In preframing you will use the fact that the conscious mind can only handle five to nine pieces of information at a time to your advantage.

You will do this by elegantly giving information to set up the context in which you want the frame to be viewed. In this manner you will be giving enough information that the conscious mind will be preoccupied with those thoughts enough to not raise an objection to the frame once it is presented. You are essentially chasing away any extra room in the mind for a framing war.

As you do this if the preframe is set up correctly the only questions that will be left in the mind of your listener are those having to do with another aspect of the frame, not the actual concept of whether you are correct or not. They will assume you are correct because you have already bypassed the ability to criticize your view with the information you have provided.

They will not question whether or not you are right but whether or not they understand you view on the subject. The preframe sets the conditions by which you evaluate a thing in advance. You can do this with almost any frame, you can state that the car they want to buy is too small, if you know it is not then you are setting the judgment up to fall in your favor. The information at the front of their minds to analyze is the size of the car not the price or color.

Changing the ways in which the objection will fall, is a way to preframe. If you want to sell a house and it very large you set the preframe up to make that a thing the buyer is okay with. You show the house to someone who is looking for a large house. The preframe is set up when you warn them that you are not sure it is large enough, even though you know it is.

This takes attention away from another aspect that may cause concern for the buyer, such as location. This causes them to go in to the frame with a preconceived judgment to make, they will focus their attention on that judgment because it seems so concerning to you.

By using preframes in different situations you are drawing the attention of the person away from what the natural conflict would be. You are setting up another conflict to absorb their attention and using said conflict to ultimately fall in your favor.

Preframes can do a lot of dirty work for you and are a powerful skill to master, they will give you control of the direction in which the interaction is going.

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Changing Hypnotic Realities Without a Word: The Power of Presuppositions

Changing Hypnotic Realities Without a Word: The Power of Presuppositions

Conversational Hypnosis illustrates its power mostly through the language you use. It is vital to learn how and when to use certain aspects of language to be successful in hypnosis. Stealth Tactics are some of the most valuable concepts you will learn in the time you spend studying hypnosis.

Stealth Tactics are a set of ways that will help you to enter the mind of a subject and leave your suggestion either without detection from the critical factor or by overloading the conscious mind in a way that it will not object to your statements presence.

As you learn the Stealth Tactics you will also be learning how to combine those tactics with other language principals and concepts. All of which will help you in creating a full process or picture of how hypnosis works. Once you master all the language skills including Stealth Tactics you will be on your way to becoming a more skilled and accomplished hypnotist.

The fourth Stealth Tactic used in Conversational Hypnosis is the concept of Presuppositions. So what exactly is a presupposition? A presupposition is a linguistic assumption. Presuppositions are used everyday by you and everyone you know. These are things you assume given the statements you hear and make. They are believed to be true just because of the language you are using.

Almost every statement you make has a presupposition built into it. The best way to explain a presupposition is to show you an example. If you were to state, "The kids are riding in the back of the car." This is a fairly common statement, and there is a few presuppositions built into it. The first is that there is a car. The second is there is a back and front to the car. And the third is that there is more than one child in the car. All these things are things you assume from that simple common statement.

Another way that presuppositions work is once the information is implied you no longer consciously try to disagree with these facts. Once the statement is made you are not questioning whether or not there are kids or a car, you are busy thinking about where the kids are in the car.

Now there are many different types of presuppositions that can be made in many different ways, we will go over some of the most valuable for your needs in the art of hypnosis.

The first type of presupposition is one of awareness. When you take the time to imply that you are aware of a certain thing it will immediately draw your listener's attention to it. In this presupposition you are taking the focus off the subject and redirecting their focus to where or why it is that way. In this concept if resistance does take place it will happen on the level of awareness not on the subject itself. Words you can use to imply awareness are know, aware, realized and noticed.

The second type of presupposition uses time and time sequence with in the statement. The presupposition that uses time and time sequence will state a chain of events in sequence or a time that they took place. You can use numerical order to do this; first, second and third.

You can also accomplish this by using words like begin, end, as soon as, prior to, after, before, continue and so on. Any words that describe a time sequence or time something happened.

The reason this works to distract resistance is that your listener gets caught up in organizing the events and when they took place. Even though this is not really necessary or important it does allow time for your suggestions and ideas to quietly slip by the critical factor.

As you are learning the three types of presuppositions you can also practice stacking presuppositions. When you stack presuppositions, one on top of the other you are sending and overwhelming amount of information out for the conscious mind to make its way through. This is a great way to distract the conscious mind from noticing the suggestion you are slipping in.

Usually when you stack presupposition the listener's conscious mind will get over loaded with information and generally revert back to just going with the flow of your speaking. This means they are not going to take the time to critically think or analyze what you are saying, making resistance nonexistent.

The final presupposition you need to know is that of adverbs and adjectives. These are used to imply quality or action. They are descriptive words like fortunately, luckily, curious and sadly. In this presupposition you are making your listener more aware of the quality of a thing than the thing itself. "Luckily, I did catch the train."

There is no question about the train's existence; the attention is drawn to the lucky part. If you made this statement alone your listener would not resist the fact there was a train but want to know why you almost missed it. The resistance is newly placed on the how; how did the action happen, how did you almost miss the train. In this presupposition there is no need to know how to use or stack them because the conscious graciously does it for you.

It is important to remember that these are not just statements they are valuable tools for you to sneak into the mind past the critical factor. This can be done with one presupposition but is more likely to work when you stack three or more together. This will adequately overload the conscious so your suggestions are firmly planted. In doing three or more presuppositions you will override the conscious' ability to keep up with you and there will likely be no critical analysis at all.




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Persistence Tactics in Hypnosis: How to Use the Hypnotic Triple & Seeding Ideas

Persistence Tactics in Hypnosis: How to Use the Hypnotic Triple & Seeding Ideas

Conversational hypnosis is a powerful practice that involves the use of tactics and principals that you will apply in order to influence those around you to live better lives. The tactics involved are many and cover a wide range of skills. As you start to put all these skills together you will begin to get a better vision of how they will all start to fit together for you in the art of hypnosis.

Persistence tactics are four of the tools you will learn to use with the other tactics, hypnotic language foundations, rapport skills and signal recognition systems. The four persistence tactics are the Hypnotic Triple, Seeding Hypnotic Ideas, Law of Successive Approximations and the Law of Compounding Effect. In this article we will be focusing of the Hypnotic Triple and Seeding Hypnotic Ideas.

In the words Persistence tactics alone we find the definition of those that are the most persistent are those who are most likely to succeed at a thing. The law of the mind that those that are the most persistent have the things they are persistent with will be deeply ingrained in them and create the biggest changes. This is key as these are two of the persistence tactics that will help to make you most successful.

Persistence will help you to create a set of ideas that will become very powerful when set into a person. Persistence eats away at the resistance wall built by people and helps to break it down so they may be open to new ideas, beliefs and ways of life. In your job as a hypnotist you will have the ability to work persistence tactics into any conversation; this alone will cause a greater power behind your suggestions and influences.

The first of the two tactics we will be focusing on here is the Hypnotic Triple. This is the idea that when you present an idea to a person you will want to produce a triple effect. Using this causes you to use repetition with your words and language, it will layer the information within a persons mind to make a powerful repetition of the idea you are striving to get across.

Repetition is one of the best ways to get a person to really absorb and remember an idea; in this the unconscious soaks it in and creates a foundation for that idea. Repetition also produces positive reinforcement and that in turn creates reality, the more it is used the more real the idea becomes for the listener.

In the Hypnotic Triple you will put the information to your listener piece by piece and layer by layer. You will want to make your statements smooth and elegant and use language that is believable. If your language is not convincing then your suggestion will not get through to your listener, if it does not get through then there will be no recall of the information.

The most important part of the Hypnotic Triple is that you are creating a triple or repetitive effect. Constantly use the words or a specific word you want your listener to put into action as a part of your suggestion. When this is done smoothly, and in a way that is believable your purpose will get through.

The second Persistence Tactic that we will discuss is the Seeding of Hypnotic Ideas. Seeding is a subtle and powerful way to get your suggestions and ideas in without your listener knowing you have even slipped them past their conscious mind.

Seeding has a sneaky effect; the idea is to casually drop the ideas one by one over a period of time. After each idea is dropped to your listener you will nurture it with other details that will help it grow into a full grown idea of their own. Master hypnotist Milton Erickson was very successful with this tactic in his therapies.

He would plant the idea in the mind and then keep replanting it repeatedly until the person is ready for the full on question, suggestion or idea to brought to them. If this is done right then down the road after careful nurture of the thoughts and ideas you are planting your subject will be prepared for you to bring the idea to them in a statement. It will no longer be overwhelming to them because the little pieces you have put in their mind have been in there preparing them unconsciously.

Seeding is a useful tactic, especially when you have a change or idea that is shocking or overwhelming. In this tactic you can present the information to the person a little at a time in a way that is less overwhelming to them by casually mentioning it over time, time after time. This is easier to accept because with Seeding you have created a foundation to set the final thought on that will be strong enough to hold it.

So in these to Persistence Tactics you are learning to use repetition in both; one very consciously and the other quite the opposite. As you practice these tactics you will see that both have a very powerful effect as they must to have been top choices by Milton Erickson.










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How to Structure a Hypnotic Story That Appeals to the Unconscious Mind

How to Structure a Hypnotic Story That Appeals to the Unconscious Mind

Stories are a powerful and essential building block for Conversational Hypnosis. Stories have been around since the dawn of man. All through history life has been documented with some type of story telling. Telling a story, whether it is a hypnotic story or not, is a way of bringing a person out of their own world and into an altered state of mind.

Stories absorb your attention, they bypass critical factor simply because you recognize them as stories and they create unconscious responses in everyone. When you tell a story you will incorporate hypnotic themes, sometimes without even trying, and seed a strategy in the minds of others. You can use stories as a way to embed suggestions, emotional triggers and link these suggestions and triggers to a specific action or outcome.

Stories can help you to suspend reality as well as merge realities together. They can offer a quiet resemblance to your life and the situations and problems you find yourself experiencing. All these aspects of story telling run right along the lines of the skills you will practice and master in hypnosis.

Stories are an important part of what you will be doing as a hypnotist. They are an art form and there is as much a method to good story telling as there is to hypnotic story telling. Remember as you read this information that we are focusing on the telling of stories, this is much different than the writing of stories. What you will do as a hypnotist is tell stories in order to invoke change in the people around you.

There are certain aspects that need to be involved to tell a hypnotic story, there are different actions and ideas that need to take place, at least to some degree. Even the simplest stories are still recognized as stories because they follow a type of formula that you hear and think, okay so that was a story.

You may think it was a bad story or you may think you heard a great story. Either way you are not able to deny that it was a story.

Hopefully you will be creating and telling great stories. In order to get on your way to telling good stories there are parts of a story that you need to be consciously aware of. A simple set of instruction that will help you in creating the most basic principal of what a story is. From there you can build and add to the story as you feel necessary, but it must contain these few instructions in order to fall into the category of a hypnotic story.

The first rule you must include in all your stories is to begin with a routine. This can be a very simple routine or a complicated one; it does not matter as long as there is a routine placed at the beginning of your story. In this article we will build an example story together. So the beginning routine of our story will be, "I was driving my car down the highway." This is a routine that will start the story we are going to build here.

The second rule for building a hypnotic story is that you must break that routine. Whatever routine you found to begin your story with must be broken. There needs to be an interruption in the action.

"I was driving my car down the highway when I heard an unexpected noise coming from the back seat." Here we have broken the routine, something other than driving down the highway has happened.

The next rule to this formula for story building is to change someone. There needs to be a character in the story that is changed. This means they need to have some type of emotional effect. Something needs to happen to affect the character you are changing that will produce an impact on that character as a result of an event.

"I was driving my car down the highway when I heard an unexpected noise coming from the back seat.

As I looked in my rear view mirror I saw a small black dog, she was holding her paw in an odd way.

I immediately pulled the car over and got out to see what the situation was. The little dog was bleeding and was in great need of medical attention.

I decided that I would have to postpone my plans to go out and take the little dog to the animal hospital."

The part of my story where my character decides to take the dog to the hospital is where the change is taking place. There is a clear decision made and an emotion is attached to it.

Now there is a fourth and final rule to hypnotic story telling that you have the option of including or leaving out. If you can find a way to incorporate it into your stories you will be glad you did.

This is called re-incorporation and it really pays off in the end. Re-incorporation is when you add a seemingly meaningless detail to the beginning of the story and then re-incorporate it at the end. This is a way to usually add a riveting effect to your stories.

If you can follow all the rules of story telling you will come up with a story every time that will be recognizable as a story. Your listener will have no question about what you have just said and it will meet the expectations of a story for anyone who hears it.

Now there are many ways to tell stories. If you find one that works better for you and incorporates all that a story need then you should stick with what works for you. But these are the rules that will rest assured give you a good story frame, the rest is up to you

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How to Become Great At Conversational Hypnosis

How to Become Great At Conversational Hypnosis

One of the first parts of being a great Conversational Hypnotist is to have the ability to induce trance in another person. Without this skill in sharp condition you will have a very difficult time improving the lives of those around you.

The ability to alter the state of mind has been something you probably have been reading about and possibly practicing for some time now.

If this is true then the next logical step in your education will be to refine and sharpen the trance induction skills you have been learning. To do this you must take all the skills you have been learning and keep them as fresh in your mind as possible. Many of these skills you will be able to use in trance induction as you learn to broaden your horizons in this area.

For now you should focus on the basics of becoming great, a great Conversational Hypnotist that is. The 4 Stage Protocol along with a couple of secret tips will give you the important and basic specifics for inducing a hypnotic trance. The skills and tips in this article will nearly guarantee you the ability to send you subject and those around you into hypnotic trances.

These are all skills you should already be familiar with and if you are not then a brief refresher may help before you carry on. On another note, remember that these are the basics and you will be learning many more layers of skills to add to these as your education continues.

The 4 Stage Protocol is really the meat and potatoes of getting someone into a hypnotic trance. This set of rules or concepts contain all you need in order to create hypnotic trance in another person.

The first step is to Absorb Attention. No matter what hypnotic effect or process you want to do with your subject you must always first absorb their attention. Without the attention of your listener you will not be able to continue in the area of inducing a trance. So make sure to practice getting people's attention.

You will learn ways to do this as you go on to other articles, all you need to know now is you simply must be able to get a persons attention focused on you to bring them into an altered state of mind or hypnotic trance.

The second stage in the 4 Stage Protocol is a very important one, Bypass the Critical Factor. As you have read before the critical factor is the filter of the conscious mind that criticizes and analyzes all the information being sent in from outside sources.

It is imperative to make any type of progress with the betterment of life that you bypass the critical factor. Your listener must be able to agree and accept your suggestions on some level so you can not only seed them in but get a response from those suggestions.

That brings us to the third stage, which is to Activate an Unconscious Response. This is simply getting any type of unconscious response from the person you are inducing. It can be any of the signals found in the signal recognitions system, an emotion or reaction to your suggestion that is communicated from an unconscious mind level.

A change in breathing, blinking and so on, as long as it is unconscious. This is important because without attaining the unconscious response you will have a difficult time leading it to a desired outcome.

This brings you to the fourth and final stage in the 4 Stage Protocol, being to Lead the Unconscious Response to a Desired Result. When you recognize the different signals or unconscious responses you must take them and lead them into your desired result.

That result can be a thought process, action, idea or anything you want that will help in the person's goals of life change.

Now that you have been reminded of the four stages you can set those stages in the back of your mind and concentrate on how to get someone's attention. The fixation of attention can be done in many different ways. The method you use largely depends on the person and circumstance you are in.

You can attract their attention by telling them something that will interest them. You can attract their attention by asking questions that instill some curiosity. You can attract them down the rabbit hole by showing them something they want so they in turn want to follow you. All these are ways of attracting attention.

The above list of ways to attract attention is great but sometimes it is just good to be direct. Simply ask them to direct their attention to what it is you are saying, doing or asking them to do. Humans by nature like to comply, most like to please others and in asking a very direct and easy thing will certainly get your listeners attention.

Being simple and direct in asking for attention may seem like a contradiction since in Conversational Hypnosis you are usually trying to learn how to be indirect. But if you take a step back and think about the greatest hypnotists like Milton Erickson and others even they knew when to be direct. They knew when to just simply make a direct request of a subject.

Being very direct is one of the best kept secrets in hypnosis. You should have no reason not to be direct, and often it can give you the best results. Making a clear concise request without embarrassment or hesitation is an important way to start in getting peoples attention.

The second secret in hypnosis that relates to this is to learn how to move from being very direct to indirect as you improve your skill. After you have refined your ability to get attention with directness you will learn to move to more indirect ways of still getting the attention you need.

This is a way to make things less blatant and more smooth, more like they are taking place in the background of what you are really doing. You will learn how to accomplish the art of absorbing attention with more subtle communications.

These things will happen in the background of conversation and be harder to spot by your listener. This is something that you will want to move on to after you have mastered the direct routes of absorbing attention.

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Use Language with Precision in Hypnosis

Use Language with Precision in Hypnosis

Using language with precision is going to be a key factor in your abilities as a hypnotist. When you learn and study language in a way that teaches you to manipulate it to get across exactly what you want when you want to you will be a far better hypnotist than if you were to neglect this skill.

Precision language is going to work with the other elements of language you have been studying. It is most often easily used in the 4 Stage Protocol and can be used with almost any concept here as you are learning Conversational Hypnosis.

Language is the number one tool you will be working with. It is the vehicles that will take your thoughts, ideas and suggestions to the person you are working with. Now you must learn new ways to manipulate and form those thoughts, ideas and suggestions so they serve the purpose you are looking for.

Action accelerating words are one of the new tools that will help you to create a new twist on how to add impact to your language. As humans it is in our nature to want things as quickly and efficiently as possible. Action accelerators are words that will create that need with in the unconscious mind.

Action accelerators are unconsciously connected within us to feel societal pressure to give a quick and complete answer to whatever the request or question may be. They give off the feeling that response is needed immediately in the moment. Some good examples of how actions accelerators work and sound are the words; now, fully, quickly and immediately. Any time you insert one of these words in a statement or question you will evoke the emotion of quick action.

These words create a pressure for the listener to respond immediately and unconsciously. If you are feeling hurried in your response you will often bypass the critical factor out of the feeling of urgent need to meet the request. After the statement is made or the question is asked you are left with no time to second guess your decisions or statements.

In this alone action accelerators are very unconsciously powerful. Because they are so powerful it is also important to consider that there are times when they are appropriate and times when they are not. There is not hard core rule to tell you when it is ok to put this kind of pressure on a person. This is determined by the context of the situation, the person themselves and the environment they are in mentally and physically.

Another way to improve precision in your language is to use Anticipation builders. These are a great component to combine with action accelerators once you learn how to use them together.

Anticipation builders are exactly as they sound they assist you in building anticipation within your listener. This is basically done by frustrating the response. Consider how much more you are likely to want something after someone tells you that you cannot have it. Think of a two year old and the way they often go on and on, "Can I have it, can I have it, how about now can I pleeeeeeease have it!" The more you say no the more determined they are to pester you until they get it.

When you frustrate a response you are basically adding intensity to it. Think of something that is right in front of you but you cannot have it. There is anticipation that naturally and unconsciously starts to build within you simply because you cannot have it right now. You know you will get it later but you want it NOW.

As soon as this happens and you have frustrated the response, even just a little, the desire to have it will grow stronger and stronger the longer you must wait. So what words do you use to build anticipation with in other people?

Words that give a perception of time, eventually we will get to them. In a moment we will go over some examples of these words, and eventually you will have a good start on this vocabulary. Until then, keep anticipation acceleration in mind and sooner or later you will be able to recognize them in others conversations. Finally, a little later we will gradually work them into some statements.

Now you have some samples, you have them in action and a little anticipation should have been created for you, maybe some frustration too.

You will notice these words have the ability of slowing you down, or holding you back from actually getting to the point. This is the effect they are designed to have and there are many more words around that will do the same thing.

As you use these words you will be building the anticipation up and adding power to that with your other language skills. Once you have created all this mental frustration and momentum you will then use action accelerators to release the potential of your idea and there is so much activity going on unconsciously at this point that there will be very little critical factor available to analyze what you have said.

The opposite of the first two language skills here would most likely be Language Softeners. These are another way of using precise language. They are words that are used to soften up commands or instruction and are usually placed at the beginning or middle of statements. They are also most likely found somewhere within the instruction. "Close the window to keep the heat in." Versus, "You might close the window to keep the heat in."

Other words that you can use to soften your language are perhaps, maybe and could. The reason you will want to know and build a good vocabulary of these words is you can avoid antagonizing people. Some people, especially those of high status, do not like to hear commands and instruction from others. With language softeners you can make your commands sound much more like polite requests which they are much more apt to put action to.

Finally there is a way to make the failure to respond to a suggestion seem irrelevant precision in language. This includes and is related to softening language in that the impact will make your words and actions softer, less expectant.

There is always the likelihood that a subject will not respond to a suggestion that you have given them. When you ask people to do a thing internally like imagine or feel they may not respond and this can result in a loss of the rapport you worked so hard to build.

The way to avoid this is to give your listener choices that are in all reality instructions. These are statements that are soft, they are also going to be true which is where the opportunity for resistance and loss of rapport are immediately defeated. This is ultimately done by building a yes set of choices that are really instructions.

You could say something to the effect of, "You could imagine yourself in a boat on the water". There is no argument here because it is true that they could do it. Whether or not they actually do is really irrelevant, the important thing is the flow of conversation has not been interrupted by resistance and loss of rapport. This is a great and powerful way to introduce new ideas or suggestions to a person while avoiding resistance.

Always remember there are times when each language style is appropriate. This applies here as there are times to be soft in direction and times to be much more direct. Even Milton Erickson knew this and practiced it. You will have to rely on your interpretation of the person, circumstance and context to know when the different languages are needed and will be most helpful.




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